Facebook Bullying
June 22nd, 2010 | 
Author: I had to share something that happened on Facebook today.
Here goes…I would love for you to give me your take on this so feel free to comment.
Early this morning I received an email from someone I didn’t know. The email went something like this.
“Are you in the habit of befriending married men? Joe (not his real name) is my husband so remove him from your list!!!!
Here is my response:
I run a business and “friend” anyone who requests a connection. I have a huge data base and it makes no difference to me if someone is married or not as I use Facebook for business purposes.
I’m sorry that his friend request to me has upset you but if you are uncomfortable with it you really should be discussing this with your husband and not me.
Wow…I couldn’t believe that she thought is was ok to address this issue with me, a complete stranger rather than confronting her husband about the issues.
I kinda felt bullied by this women. Almost as if she would come and beat me up if she knew where I lived and didn’t remover her husband from my friend list!
Navigating social media can be tricky especially when you use it for business and are in the habit of “friending” everyone.
Hope this bully leaves me alone and any other women her husband has friended recently.
Have you ever been bullied on Facebook? Got any other humorous stories you would like to share? I would love to read them.
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Maureen this is unreal and a First I heard of !!! I would have never thought this type of situation could ever emerge from FB!WOW…
It may be that the lady in question has an unresolved “trust/relationship” issue with her husband – yet chose to take it on his female FB friends – your reply to her was thoughtful and appropriate coming from a place of integrity with yourself and your business -
As for the “feeling bullied” – well my friend just take a few deep breaths and let them all go – It was not about you
Forgive her and forgive yourself for feeling that way – All is well!
Yet, I believe that thing always happened for a reason and learning is often the main one, wonder if you needed to learn something from this experience – remember we are mirror of each other – what we don’t like in others is in fact something we don’t like in our-self – whatever reflection it will come to you, just trust that you would not have attracted this if you were not ready and equipped for this challenge!
Although this does not excuses her actions, I know you can understand where she came from – She probably felt victimized and angry at him and chose to react by blaming/deflecting her anger towards you instead of being responsible and seeking for a resolution – You don’t have to gt into her story for it is only that – a story
Therefore send her forgiveness so you can move forward with your life ~
Hope this help – Choose and move
Maureen you
Chantal:
There is nothing to forgive as I don’t harbor any bad feelings toward her. In fact I rather feel sorry for her. She is obviously insecure in her marriage and possibly other areas of her life.
It always amazes me how somehow will circumvent dealing with an issue head on and instead go around it and confront someone who has little or nothing to do with the real issue.
I hope she gets the help she needs to move forward with her life.
Wow… that’s a crazy experience. A former client of mine used to track my whereabouts to make sure I was getting the work done. Although I did nothing wrong, the lesson I learned is that it’s not always a good idea to be friends with clients. Have you considered a Facebook page instead? Much less personal. Good luck!
I have a fan page Kelly and I am fine with clients “friending” me as I don’t share anything super personal on my page. I think for me the issue really was how comfortable this women was in confronting me when she really should have been talking with her husband!
I am happy you feel that way about it – I hope this for her too
Be well ~
Wow…some people have nothing left to complain about! I agree, there are much deeper issues here. I am “friends” with tons of married men and women on FB-so what? Being “friends” does not equate to being more. In the words of Bethenney Frankel… “Get a hobby!”
You are so right…she definitely needs to get a hobby!