Posts Tagged ‘money beliefs’

We all want to make more money.  I know this from the countless women I’ve coached over the years who have told me so.  The advice I give them on how to change their pricing strategies and how to creatively market their services seems simple enough at first glance.

So I’m often shocked and surprised when even after they follow my advice they still don’t seem to have enough money. So why is it even though a woman entrepreneur can make more money it doesn’t necessarily mean she will keep more money?

I know, it sounds unbelievable at first.  I mean if you’re working harder and harder at becoming successful, why does it seem to just slip through your fingers and out of your bank account?

Our relationship with money is a complex thing.  The reality is nearly ALL women have a secret, haunting issue with money that causes them to freak out and give away their power with money.  And when you lose your power, the cash is sure to follow.

Most possess a fear that somehow, having more money will change them or change their life in some way they can’t control.

So, while on the outside they do everything they can to be successful, on the inside, their mindset and beliefs are sabotaging their efforts.

If you, too, have created that endless struggle with never seeming to have enough money, even when you’re making more, then I know you’ll find these 3 tips really helpful in getting to the bottom of what’s really going on:

Money Will Change You

A lot of women are afraid they’ll turn into someone their not.  But truth be told, money doesn’t change you in that way.  It will magnify your values and your character but not change you into someone completely different.  If you were generous before. you’ll be more so with more cash.

On the flip side, if there are traits and values about yourself that you don’t particularly like then now’s the time to do something about them before you have more money.  Take the time to express your positive characteristics now and stand firm in what you stand for and eventually you’ll see that money will only enhance your quality of your life, not turn you into a mean and heartless bitch.

Who Are You Afraid of Offending?

I can tell you from experience that it’s not uncommon to have someone in your life who you think will be upset, jealous, threatened or disturbed in some way if you make more money.  Typically it’s a family member, but it could just as easily be a close friend too.

Does this feel vaguely familiar?  Ok, well it’s just fear you’re feeling, so go ahead and acknowledge the fear. If you really dig deep here this person more than likely wants the best for you.  They want you to be secure, safe, happy, etc.  So, focus on the positive intentions they have for you instead of focusing on what you’re afraid of.

What’s the Money For?

So, what’s your big money why?  If you don’t know, figure it out.

Making more is great and it allows you to indulge in life’s luxuries.  But once you’ve indulged a few times, eventually you’ll want to connect to your big why which has to do with your heart and spirit.  Maybe you want to finally own a home at the ocean or pay for your grandchild’s college education.

Knowing exactly and specifically what larger amounts of money are slotted for will help you value keeping more of it instead of splurging it on something that won’t change your life in any meaningful way.

Money Equals Self-Growth

Do you want to grow as a person?  Well, money is the perfect catalyst for your self-growth and development.  Not only will you delight in how advanced you become but your new income will give you the opportunity to make a profound and positive difference in the lives of everyone around you.

Being willing to look at the situation and telling the truth were the first steps in helping you move towards a big Money Breakthrough.  But we still have some emotional work to do before we start down the road to taking the kind of action that will help you create new money habits.

In keeping with our goal of preventing you from getting caught up in the buying frenzy this holiday season, I want to examine the fears that motivate us to shop till we drop.

What Are You Afraid Of If You Don’t Spend Like Crazy?

Boy, do I remember vividly the day I had to tell my daughter I didn’t have the money to have the usual Christmas.  Our “usual” consisted of my daughter giving me a list of things she just “had to have” and me going out and getting her all of it.  You read it right, ALL OF IT!

Pictures speak a thousand words so I’ve included one so you fully get the idea.  Every gift under that tree is for my daughter!

There was a time when I would look at those photos and feel sick.  Thank goodness I can look at them now and not feel those same feelings of dread, despair, and nausea.

So when I started to delve into my own money habits, fears, beliefs and mindsets I knew I had to answer the biggest question of them all: “What am I afraid of if I don’t spend like crazy?”

Fear motivates us to do all sorts of things.  In this case, fear was driving my need to shop my life away.  But in the beginning I wasn’t sure what I was afraid of.  It took some time and digging before the fear revealed the truth of the situation.

Our fears are motivated by underlying needs. Maybe you over spend because you have an underlying need to be loved. Or, maybe your shopping fills the need to gain status or recognition.  No matter what the underlying need, trust me, there is one to your over shopping and over spending.

Now is the time to evaluate it and determine, “what need am I trying to fill?”

This part of the process takes some real self-reflection because at first the need may not be very clear to you or possibly you may feel like you have competing needs that must be fulfilled.

This exercise isn’t for the faint of heart.  This type of self-recrimination pushes us past our feeling of complacency and pain and moves us forward towards the life we really want. The alternative is to be stuck in the same place with the same fears for the rest of our lives.  If that’s what you want, then heck, don’t bother reading anymore and go out and keep on spending, feeling guilty, and being in debt.

Here’s my suggestion:  get out a notebook and pen and start journaling your thoughts and feelings about what‘s coming up for you.  Review it from time to time and see if you can identify a pattern in your thoughts.

You more than likely will start to see a clear picture of where you have been deluding yourself and the actions steps may clearly begin to form in your mind.

Action – that six letter word that changes everything.

How you do money is how you do everything.

I posted that in my money reflections section of my newsletter last week.  I didn’t get one question or comment about it which I thought was kind of strange.

Could it be that everyone understands this statement?  I honestly didn’t think it was possible that everyone understood the statement so I decided to write a piece today that digs deeper into the statement.

Because we live in a universe that is made up of energy it’s safe to say that money is energy too.  Makes sense, right?  Which means if this energy is everywhere and money is energy too, our relationship with money is a symbol of our relationship with everything in our lives.

When you work at improving one area of your life usually other areas are improved as well.  So it’s safe to say when we improve our relationship with money other areas follow suit and get better and better.

So, how you do money is how you do everything.

Think about it this way…

• Do you feel like you ever have enough money? Do you have enough time?
• Do you have a tendency to waste money?  Do you often feel like you are wasting your time?
• Do you know how much money you have in your bank accounts?  Do you have an adequate picture of your physical health?

The goal here is to wake up and start recognizing where we are unconscious and to start changing our habits and beliefs to ones that better suit us.  By doing so we can start to conduct ourselves and stand more powerfully in our lives.

Money and the energy associated with it allows us to do just that.

The other night I was having a conversation about, you guessed it: money. A dear friend was telling me how every time someone says “I can teach you how to make money in your business” she hears skeptical remarks like, “How do we know she makes six figures, she’s probably lying” or “Everyone says that and I don’t think it’s true.”

When I heard this, I was immediately struck with the idea that these people’s doubts were really their own self-doubt about their ability to make six figures. It was a projection of their own fear.

Fear that they can’t do it. Fear that they’re not good enough. Fear that they’re not worthy to make a grand sum of money. Fear they’ll fail trying.

The truth is unless someone is willing to show you their bank account there is NEVER a way to verify the accuracy of a statement like that. You know the old saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” So even if you think someone doesn’t make six figures, you really have no way of knowing for sure.

But that’s not the point. The point is if you want to make more money in your business or life you have to stop judging. You can’t aspire to have more if you are skeptical of others who claim to have it AND of how they did it!

You must choose to think in ways that support your happiness and success instead of ways that don’t. That’s the plain and simple truth.

Judging, masked behind fear, is definitely not a supportive thought pattern. So my advice: change your thinking about money so you can find the inner happiness that opens the door to greater abundance.

I recently added a new Money Reflections Section to my newsletter.  Here is the first addition with many more to come.  Hope you like it.  If any of it resonates with you I would love to read your comments.

Do you give your power away with money? In business, women typically give away their power in one of these four ways:

1. They decide in advance how many people are going to sign up for the next offer or they decide in advance how much someone is going to pay and they do this in a way that artificially suppresses their success by keeping their numbers much, much lower than they could be.
2. They don’t understand or they don’t see why people would pay more for their services.
3. They give away their power by giving away an abundance of their time.
4. They give away their power by overspending in different areas of their life and business.

Which is your pattern?  Figure out which one of these really hits home for you and then ask yourself this question:  “What need is being served by giving away your power with money in this way?” Maybe it’s your need to be liked or the need to avoid rejection or the need to avoid being seen as powerful by others.    Now consider and ask yourself, “As someone who meets that need and is fully standing in my power with money what is the action I should now take?”

Let me know what it is, ok?

Are you frustrated because you’re not making 6 figures in your business?  Or possibly you are currently making 6 figures but you are desperately trying to double maybe even triple your income.  Sound familiar?

More than likely you are struggling with a couple of common mistakes that many business owners make as they attempt to break into 6 figures or more.  These self-sabotaging mistakes can easily keep you from making the kind of money you desire. But there is a way to fix that easily once you know what they are.

Here are three easy tips that you can implement right away so that you can put that self-saboteur away once and for all so your income can soar to new heights!

1. Get Clear of Your Money Past

Money is such an emotionally charged topic for nearly everyone.  We all have money stories that we carry around with us that stand in the way of us breaking into new income levels.  These old beliefs, values and behaviors can be eliminated and be replaced with new beliefs, values and behaviors that support your desire for more money.  All you have to do is make the commitment to do something about ridding yourself of these old gremlins.

Now you may be saying to yourself, “Yes, Maureen, that’s easier said than done.”  But the reality is you choose everyday how you are going to think about any given situation.  You can either choose to think about money in ways that will support your happiness and success or not.  It’s really that simple.

The truth is that rich and poor people think differently.  So if you want to be making more money than you are right now, check out your thinking about money and do something about it.

2. Stop Telling Yourself That Making More Money Is Difficult

I can’t begin to tell you how many people tell me how “hard, difficult, or impossible” it is to make more money.  Well, as long as you tell yourself that and believe it, it will be.  Do you understand that every time you say things like that you are just feeding all the negative money beliefs that you have and giving yourself permission to sabotage your success?

For starters, be open to the idea that making money can be easy and simple.  The secret is in making sure you have the proper systems in place.  Making money the hard way means you have either an outdated system or no system at all and are unfocused in your marketing.

Evaluate your current plan and see if it needs updating.

3. Start Thinking and Acting Like A Six- and Seven-Figure Business Owner

Tired of clients that drain you? Well stop accepting them and start looking for and taking on clients that meet your criteria as a six- and seven-figure business owner.  Do you think for a minute that millionaires work with clients that exhaust them with their whining and complaining?  I can tell you they don’t!

Million-dollar business owners have learned to shift their energy to a higher place that is now ready for better clients and higher fees.  It’s like they have upgraded from coach to first class!

Look at your current repertoire of clients?  Are there any on the list that need to be fired?  Start strategizing a plan of action on eliminating these clients and replacing them with ideal clients better suited to your new mindset.  Make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in these better paying clients and post it on your vision board.

By Ridding Yourself of These Old Beliefs You Are Making Room For Way Better Money and Clients!

It’s true that you need the right business model and you must understand the proper marketing steps to take to create this new business.  But, the secret here is to work as much on your business as your new mindset and your marketing efforts will pay off.