Posts Tagged ‘money mindset’

In my last post I talked about the feelings of envy, jealousy and resentment at people who have more money or wealth and the dilemma this raises if you are aspiring to be like them.  The two feelings almost cancel each other out.

On the one had you want more money and a successful business and on the other, you resent the heck out of people who are better off than you.  Feel the disconnect?  Understand how impossible it is to achieve greater success when you feel envious or jealous of those more fortunate?

A friend wrote me after my blog post and told me that he often struggles with these similar feelings as well as confusion around his mindset which tells him you can’t be a good person and be rich.  In other words, you can’t be spiritual and wealthy…you need to be one or the other. I know where this belief came from and I want to help you realize this old belief system is false.

There was a time when I was exploring my spirituality and was reading anything and everything that I could get my hands on.  I grew to love reading and listening to Marianne Williamson and her talks on the principles of A Course In Miracles.

Marianne states:  “Like everything else, money is either holy or unholy, depending on the purposes ascribed to it by the mind. We tend to do with money what we do with sex: we desire it but we judge the desire. It is the judgment that then distorts the desire, turning it into an ugly expression. Because we are ashamed to admit that we want these things, we have insidious ways of pretending that we don’t – such as condemning our desires even as we act them out. “

The reality is, our judgment of money is just our ego’s way of making sure we don’t have any.

What we repel against, we can never have.  But on the other side, what we bless, we draw to ourselves.

It’s our small ego’s that make us believe  we have to sacrifice if we are to be spiritual or a good person.  This just isn’t so.  The world is there to support us and lead us to whatever abundance awaits.

I know that many people intellectually understand the statement, but there is a lot of work to be done to overcome the feelings and old beliefs that we carry around with us, weighing us down and preventing us from having all that we desire.

My coaches request to you today is to try on this new mindset:  Be open to receiving money and trust that it always will find its way to you.

This small but simple mindset shift will have a profound effect on your ability to start attracting money into your life.  Post your comments as I would love to hear how this mindset shift helps you.

When you drive down the street and see a home that is a great deal nicer than yours, what is your reaction? Do you feel jealous, envious, or resentful?   Do you think the people in the house are “lucky” or “rich a—holes?”

Does this sound familiar?  Are you spewing anger and resentment towards people who are better off than you?

I have a friend who has displayed this type of bitterness in the past.  Oh, she has proclaimed more than once to me that she desperately wants to change her financial situation.  But how on earth can she improve her circumstances and create wealth when she clearly despises the very people she is attempting to become?

Many years ago I started a cleaning business.  My company cleaned some of the biggest homes in the area.  I am talking multi million dollar homes in some of THE best neighborhoods.  When I would pull up to these homes I was always excited to see what the house would look like inside.  I enjoyed walking through those homes and complimenting the owners.

I understood that most, if not all of these owners worked very hard for what they had.  Nobody handed them this terrific home in the most upscale of communities.  In fact, most of them where business owners who worked round the clock for many, many years before enjoying the success they had today.

They were my hero’s.  If they could achieve this success, I knew I could too.  I never did and still don’t feel one iota of jealousy, hatred, envy or resentment towards them.

But this doesn’t mean those feeling don’t creep up in other situations from time to time.  Sometimes I find myself making disparaging remarks to people who drive nicer cars than me.  I’m pretty sure it has more to do with their driving abilities (or lack thereof) than the car they are driving.  I realize my human tendency and stop the negativity immediately.

You see, you don’t have to be perfect in your thinking or behavior to achieve greater financial success, but you do need to be able to recognize it and change directions when it surfaces.

Here’s my request to you: If you are committed to achieving financial freedom, then the next time you hear yourself saying disparaging remarks to those with bigger bank accounts immediately stop yourself and release the negative energy.  Now think of more supportive thoughts and behaviors that will spur on your financial growth and increased awareness.

Remember, your thoughts are neither good nor bad.  But they can make or break your efforts in achieving financial independence.  Replace the negative dis-empowering thoughts with positive empowering ones that support your desire to achieve greater wealth and you will be making the strides necessary to turn your financial destiny around.

Are you frustrated because you’re not making 6 figures in your business?  Or possibly you are currently making 6 figures but you are desperately trying to double maybe even triple your income.  Sound familiar?

More than likely you are struggling with a couple of common mistakes that many business owners make as they attempt to break into 6 figures or more.  These self-sabotaging mistakes can easily keep you from making the kind of money you desire. But there is a way to fix that easily once you know what they are.

Here are three easy tips that you can implement right away so that you can put that self-saboteur away once and for all so your income can soar to new heights!

1. Get Clear of Your Money Past

Money is such an emotionally charged topic for nearly everyone.  We all have money stories that we carry around with us that stand in the way of us breaking into new income levels.  These old beliefs, values and behaviors can be eliminated and be replaced with new beliefs, values and behaviors that support your desire for more money.  All you have to do is make the commitment to do something about ridding yourself of these old gremlins.

Now you may be saying to yourself, “Yes, Maureen, that’s easier said than done.”  But the reality is you choose everyday how you are going to think about any given situation.  You can either choose to think about money in ways that will support your happiness and success or not.  It’s really that simple.

The truth is that rich and poor people think differently.  So if you want to be making more money than you are right now, check out your thinking about money and do something about it.

2. Stop Telling Yourself That Making More Money Is Difficult

I can’t begin to tell you how many people tell me how “hard, difficult, or impossible” it is to make more money.  Well, as long as you tell yourself that and believe it, it will be.  Do you understand that every time you say things like that you are just feeding all the negative money beliefs that you have and giving yourself permission to sabotage your success?

For starters, be open to the idea that making money can be easy and simple.  The secret is in making sure you have the proper systems in place.  Making money the hard way means you have either an outdated system or no system at all and are unfocused in your marketing.

Evaluate your current plan and see if it needs updating.

3. Start Thinking and Acting Like A Six- and Seven-Figure Business Owner

Tired of clients that drain you? Well stop accepting them and start looking for and taking on clients that meet your criteria as a six- and seven-figure business owner.  Do you think for a minute that millionaires work with clients that exhaust them with their whining and complaining?  I can tell you they don’t!

Million-dollar business owners have learned to shift their energy to a higher place that is now ready for better clients and higher fees.  It’s like they have upgraded from coach to first class!

Look at your current repertoire of clients?  Are there any on the list that need to be fired?  Start strategizing a plan of action on eliminating these clients and replacing them with ideal clients better suited to your new mindset.  Make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in these better paying clients and post it on your vision board.

By Ridding Yourself of These Old Beliefs You Are Making Room For Way Better Money and Clients!

It’s true that you need the right business model and you must understand the proper marketing steps to take to create this new business.  But, the secret here is to work as much on your business as your new mindset and your marketing efforts will pay off.

Here I am with Robert Allen, acclaimed author of The One Minute Millionaire, No Money Down and Multiple Streams of Income to name a few.  I had the pleasure of hearing Robert Allen speak this past weekend at the Maximizing Success Wealth Retreat in Boston.

Robert shared so many powerful and wonderful insights but I was particularly grateful to hear his take on the need for money to flow.  In his presentation he suggested, actually encouraged the audience to give away 10% of whatever they earn as soon as they earn it to either a charity, church or someone who needs it.  Right away…before you even pay yourself!

Robert Allen believes that,  “In order to go get, you must go give first.  I believe this is the fundamental principle of wealth.”

Ok, now relax and let me explain.  I can hear some of you squirming in your seat right now thinking, “I barely have enough to pay my bills and you’re suggesting that I give 10% of my money away?”  Yup, that’s right, give it away.

The idea of giving back is an exercise in gratitude.  When you come from the mindset that you have already received the abundance,  then it feels natural to give it back because you understand that you already have everything you need.  If you give the money expecting that you will receive even more, then you are attached to the result and it more than likely will backfire and not work.  The magic or “the secret” is in the understanding of the principle of knowing and believing that you already have all that you need; that you in essence have already gotten it back so why expect more?

Robert Allen states:  “You should be so grateful to give a tiny percentage back.  When you finally let go of the expectation, that’s when you will probably get more.  Then you are feeling even more blessed, and the urge to give back should be so natural.  You have already received.  Your tithing is the gratitude.  This is what I explain to others, as I, too, “inoculate” myself against what can become an addiction to wealth. The more wealth we get, the more we should naturally want to give it back.

So in essence, if you are attached to getting more and more than in actuality you are not practicing gratitude and the abundance can’t flow…the valve is clogged or shut off completely.  You can’t be attached and grateful at the same time.  So pick gratitude and watch the flow of abundance into your life!

I have been writing a lot about money over the last several weeks and I want to continue along those lines with a couple of  quick money tips.   The focus today is on Money Boundaries.

Money Boundaries are vital to your overall money health. When you don’t have clear and solid money boundaries you create money leaks.  Money boundaries are vital in creating the energetic alignment so that you can have all that money flowing into your business that you desire.  So what are good money boundaries?  Here are two tips to help you create great money boundaries.

Tip # 1:  Don’t Discount Your Services

Often times as women business owners we have that nagging need to discount.  It creeps up, sometimes out of nowhere and hits us between the eyes.  Why do we do it?  Sometimes it is as simple as assuming that our clients can’t afford what we are offering.

It is NOT your job to assume anything about your clients ability to pay  for your products or services.  It IS your job to offer what you have to them and allow them to decide for themselves if the price is right for them or not.

Remember,  discounting is more about your fear about charging what you are charging and less about what people can or cannot afford. Start working on the issues that hold you back from charging what you are worth and in the end it will help you bust through your current income and move into greater and greater abundance.

Tip #2:  Offer Your Clients Full Pay Options

For all you coaches, consultants and other professionals offer full pay options for your service and include a great incentive to paying in full. Why?  Because when you have a client pay in full you are opening up yourself to the ability to receive a large amount of cash all at once.  Failure to offer full pay options and you rob yourself of greater cash flow.  Which would you rather have a large amount all at once or money coming in dribs and drabs?

Follow these simple tips and create solid money boundaries to ensure the money flows to you!

I was sitting and thinking the other day about the presentation that I did at the last DARE To Be Phenomenal Networking Event.  So many of the women came up to me after and told me how they have struggled with many limiting beliefs that were instilled in them by their parents.  It got me thinking about some serious questions one should ponder about money.  I am going to focus on a few here today and will be back later in the week with some more questions to think about.

Write down your answers and see what comes up for you.

1. What stories did your family tell you about money?  Was there a story that was repeated over and over again in your family?  Were these stories positive or negative?
2. How did your mother portray her attitude about money? What messages did she send about money?
3. How did your father portray his attitude about money?  What messages did he send about money?
4. Did you worry about money as a child?  What stories or words would you use to describe your worry about money?
5. What did you learn about money as a child?  How did these lessons make you feel about money?
6. When given the opportunity to learn about money do you resist learning this information?
7. Does money flow in and out of your life smoothly or do you have difficulty getting and giving money?
8. Do you feel in control or out of control with regard to your financial situation?
9. Do you know what your financial goals are?  Do you have a plan to get there or are you using the hope and pray method?
10. When you think about money do you feel dread or excitement? Why?
11. What are you willing to do about the beliefs about money that are having a negative impact on your ability to attract abundance into your life?

For some of you when you read these questions it is going to stir up all sorts of feelings about money.  It’s ok and it’s totally normal.  It is all part of the process of busting through those negative beliefs so you can embrace new, positive beliefs about money.  Let me know how you do and best of luck through this journey.