Posts Tagged ‘tolerations’

This week while on a couple of different calls,  I noticed a theme that kept coming up for my  new clients.  They all seemed to be completely and utterly overwhelmed with everything that was on their plate.

It struck me that what was missing in their work lives was a serious plan and commitment to carving out the space and time to attend to their business.  So we addressed the issue head on.

Here are a couple of great tips to help you tackle the overwhelm and start getting a handle on developing your dream business:

1. Marketing Takes Time

Realize that it takes about 3 hours a day to market your business effectively.  I just heard a thump…was it you falling off your chair onto the floor?  You heard me right.  3 hours each day.  I know that this sounds like a lot and, well it is a lot but the rewards will be even better once you reach your goals.

Try waking up an hour earlier each day in order to work on your marketing plan and strategies.  Spend less time doing things that are not going to build your business.  No matter how you accomplish this realize that you MUST find the time in your schedule to build your business, market your business and attract all the clients you want into your business.  In essence, you must make this a top priority!

2.  Create A Plan and Stick To It

Once you carve out more time to work on the most important aspects of your business stick to the plan.  Stop allowing all the other stuff to creep into your schedule and take priority.

One of  my client’s told me she loved to garden.  I said, “great, you can only garden in the early evening and weekend.”  Work time is work time and you shouldn’t be doing laundry, cleaning the house, or any other chore you can think of when you should be devoting your time and attention to your business.

3.  Rid Yourself of Everything That Drains You

You need to have  a lot of energy to successfully create and grow a business.  Maybe  you are engaging with people, activities and responsibilities that suck the life out of you.  Evaluate your current circumstances and begin to eliminate these energy drains immediately.

If you volunteer and it is a painful process – give it up.  If you have a friend that complains all the time and you really don’t enjoy her company – stop seeing her.  Make the hard decisions and reinvest your new found time and energy into your business success.

4.  Realize That You Should Be Focused On 3 Things and 3 Things Only

You should be focused on:

• Work with clients – If you get a client you are working with them as you should be.
• Marketing the business – Without the marketing activities you won’t have a business.  So get busy marketing!
• Working on your mindset – Our mindsets often stand in the way of our progress.  Sign up for a teleclass or read a great book that will help you consistently work on the mindset issues that come up for you.  It will be one of the greatest things you can do to move your business forward.

Follow these tips  and you will find a great return on your investment by doing these simple, but effective strategies.

The New Year has begun and with it is my desire to surround myself with the most positive, supportive people that I can.

Being surrounded by people that love and support you is crucial to your overall success as a business person.  If you don’t think I’m right about that just look at the people that you know that live mediocre lives or are not that successful.  What drama do they attract in their lives?  Who is dragging them down?  Do they surround themselves with positive people or do they find that they are tolerating and maybe even inviting less than stellar people into their lives?

So in support of my New Year’s resolution I developed the criteria below to  ensure that I am attracting the most positive and supportive friends, business associates and support team to me.

Here it is:

1.  They must have my best interest at heart

2.  They do not create nor live a life filled with drama

3.  They understand that communication is the best tool we have to improve our lives and resolve conflict

4.  They must be genuine.  How can I tell?  I watch their behavior.  Actions always speak louder than words.

5.  Has good boundaries.

6.  Has high standards.

7.  Understands the importance of integrity in one’s life.

8.  Takes full responsibility for their life.

Bottom line:  I am not tolerating people that suck the life out of me, are mean spirited, are emotionally immature and/or engage in gossip or other unhealthy habits.  That type of energy is not the energy that I want to surround myself with.

What about you? Who are you ready to let go of in your life?  Are you ready to start attracting and inviting the right people into your life that will support you?  Let me know!

Last week I wrote a post called “Happiness Starts Here”. This post was devoted to discussing tolerations in our lives and by how ridding ourselves of these tolerations we open ourselves up to a better, happier quality of life.

Tolerations are not the only thing that sucks our positive energy right out the front window.  Unresolved matters are also an energy drain and the sooner you handle the situations of your past the sooner you can focus your energy on the things that will bring you happiness and joy.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• What situations in your life cause you to have unresolved matters?
• What would it be like if had no unresolved matters to address?
• How much of what you struggle with in your life is a result of unresolved matters?
• What needs to happen to get rid of all of the unresolved matters in your life and be clear of your past?

Typically when working with clients I see a pattern of unresolved matters in one of four key areas:

• Physical Environment
• Personal Well Being
• Money and Finances and
• Relationships

Are they any issues that have gone unresolved that you can think of from this list?  If so, what are they?  How are they getting in the way of your happiness?

By addressing and resolving issues from the past you gain more confidence, more time, less problems and more opportunities.

Now doesn’t that sound good?

The other day I was with a group of really phenomenal women. While sitting there  I realized they needed a coaching intervention and fast!  Why?  Because they were tolerating things in their life that was sucking the happiness from them and surrounding them with negative energy.

I shouted “STOP” and  asked them to take out a piece of paper and start writing down all the things they were tolerating in their lives.  Some of these great gals sighed a big, long sigh recognizing immediately just how much they tolerated; they didn’t have to write it out.  Others were in denial claiming that they tolerated nothing and still others were not sure they should put those items down on paper fearful someone might see the list other than themselves.  But with some coaxing they all obliged me and started writing.

Ten minutes later these women had a list that collectively could have stretched out for miles.  Some of the women didn’t want to stop they had identified so many intolerables.  Most were in shock at what they put up with everyday.

When I first was asked to this exercise  I didn’t think I had much to put on my list.  But after a mere 15 minutes I had over 100 tolerations down on paper.

Now none of them were earth shattering — but all together they were just the type of annoyances that bogged me down and stopped my creative energy from flowing.

Just to give you an idea of what was on my list, here is some of what I wrote:

~need to have bedroom painted ~new blinds need to be hung in both upstairs bedrooms ~catch up with old friends from coaching school ~ get hair cut ~order new furniture for office~schedule mammogram~make appointment for ma with dermatologist ~finish copy for mastermind program ~finish testimonial page so it can be posted on site ~add information for networking group on site ~schedule events on calendar

Individually these items were pretty simple matters to take care of and for the most part I wasn’t even aware that they were bothering me.  But as a group, they represented a great amount of negative energy that was launching a daily attack on my well being.

I was completely unaware the impact that all these nagging things had on my subconscious.  But once I became aware of them they landed on the “To Do List” and once on the list it meant they had to be taken care of.

Some of them I did myself others I hired others to do for me.  But as I was able to cross them off “the list” my well being, happiness and creativity rose exponentially.  And, as my happiness and creativity began to increase so did my bank account!

My Challenge To You

I want you to get out a piece of paper and start writing down all the things that you tolerate in your life.  Keep adding to the list as issues come up. If you don’t think that you have any just walk around your house and jot down what you see that bothers you.  Apply this concept to all areas of your life including your home, work and relationships.   It doesn’t matter if you know right now how to resolve the matter; the solution will come.

EVERYTHING and I do mean everything that does not bring you joy needs to go on this list.  Now don’t worry you don’t need to tackle everything on the list immediately, but at least you will have a list from which to start from when you are ready.  Some of the items on your list will take 10 minutes and zero dollars to fix while others will take a bit more time, energy and money.  Either way you now have a starting point from which to move yourself into living a life free of tolerations.

Embrace this concept, eliminate tolerations and claim the life and business you dream of!